Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Letter To My Future Daughter-in-Law

After my toilet break at around 130am early this morning, I couldn't go back to sleep no matter how hard I tried. It's been like this for a while. So I was wide awake from 130am to 4am, counting sheeps, smelling and huffing my dearest son and worrying about unnecessary stuff. Then I chanced upon this video on FB.

I was crying so hard by the end of the video I couldn't stop. What a father. Then another wave of sadness hit me and I cried harder. 

My baby, the very baby who was sleeping beside me, the very baby who has been extremely clingy and goes "mummy mummy mummy" all day, will one day, not be my baby anymore. Technically, he'll always be mine, but one day, he's gonna find the woman he loves and marry her, and have his own family. Just that thought alone makes me sad, but who am I kidding? I can't keep him by my side forever. This is what life should be.

Anyhow, I got inspired and wanted to write a letter to my future daughter-in-law. Maybe, just maybe, one day, B will chance upon this letter. And perhaps maybe, his future wife might even get a snigger out of it. But right now, I want to write this for my sake, to remind myself how precious this fellow is to me and how much I love him.


Dear You,

Yes, you. At this stage, you are just you to me. Because very soon, you are going to snatch away one of the love of my life that I hold so dear. You are taking a part of me away.

But I guess you are a part of his life that he now hold so dear, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. So I shall embrace you into our family and hope you don't create rifts between us mother and son.

Well, who am I kidding? I hated my mother-in-law to the guts. So I can't stop you from feeling the same, but all I can say is, I will try my very best to not be that mother-in-law that everybody hates. I will give you guys the freedom that every newly weds yearn and my hubby and I will very well be minding our own business, unless circumstances dictate otherwise. All I can say is, relationships between MILs and DILs are 2-way thing, and usually the MILs refuse to admit. But I will give you my word, I will do my part and I hope you do yours too. And if all else fails, just love my son truthfully, honour him and be faithful to him, because, after all, you two are the ones who will spend the bulk of your lives together. We will be there, but we won't be there for long.

Now you have to know the reason I'm doing this. Your husband, my first born, was the best thing that happened to me. You might not be interested to know the details, but we worked hard to conceive him, after all the months of frustrations, tears and desolation. He was literally godsend. The early weeks after his arrival are now fading away in my memory, but if my memory did not fail me, it was the hardest weeks of my life. The countless amount of food strikes he went on that brought on so much heartache is something I wish that you will never have to go through as a mother. If you are ever faced with such a situation one day, I hope I can be there to help alleviate some of your stress without being a nuisance.

As he grew, he brought so much joy to my husband and I. Every morning I look forward to waking up with him, or rather, being woken by his antics, because he is such a happy baby in the morning. We literally laugh ourselves out of bed to get ready for the day. Such is the happiness I wish upon you one day when you become a mother.

You should also know that as I am writing this, your husband-to-be is not even 21 months. I know, dramatic MIL here. But understand that this is a very delicate and precious period for me. He has been so clingy to me (I'm totally loving it), and it just brings a fresh new bout of emotions that one day, my dear baby will be a grown man, all independent and ready to start a family. Your FIL and I will do our very best to nurture him into the perfect gentleman that he will soon be to you and your family, but please, please, please, please, continue the work we did and I ask that if you could, even exceed it, because you must be someone really extraordinary to my son, and I cannot imagine what his world would become should you not be part of it.

Now as I hand over this part of me to you, treat it with plenty of tender, loving care, but also to yourself, take good care of yourself, so that both of you will have many many wonderful years ahead of you.

Your mother-in-law

1 comment:

  1. I didn't watch the video but teared anyway, knowing the reason behind this letter. I cannot imagine my baby not being mine completely either.