Your early feelings about having a high need child may be so full of negatives (“doesn’t sleep,” “won’t settle,” “uncuddly,” “unpredictable,” “stubborn”) that you fail to see the flowers beneath the weeds. The payoff in parenting a high need child is that beneath every apparent “negative” trait lies a positive one. Once you pick the weeds (yours and baby’s), you see a flower blossom, sometimes so beautifully you forget that pile of weeds.
To be honest, B's naps are getting so much better these days and there barely is a fight or struggle. I wouldn't even go to the extent of calling it a "negative trait". He's just a baby! He can sleep longer too. Most importantly, amidst the challenges, he's a healthy, active, happy baby. Dr Z gave the reassurance and I'm just enjoying time with him.
Personalities don’t change in a day. It may take months of hourly baby- mellowing to notice progress.
We make allowances for his personality and temperament and give him time to catch up rather than pushing him to “straighten up” now. Sometimes I just resigned myself to the fact that my child cried a lot and I couldn’t always fix it, but I could at least be there.
I keep reminding myself, he's just a baby. I have to be patient with a helpless baby who can't communicate his needs yet. Crying is the only form. Patience. Zen.