When Mummy Danessa asked if I would be interested to join her blog train on me-time, which will run from July to August, my first instinct was, "no". My second baby would be due in early July and I don't think I will have time to update my blog, let alone talk about me-time. But, I decided to go ahead and commit myself to the blog train because, isn't this what me-time is all about? Finding time amidst your busy schedule, be it at work or home, to spend some time with yourself? This will also give me an opportunity to reflect as well as see how we are doing with this parenting gig.
So, here I am, with my 3-weeks old baby napping in her cot and my 2-year old napping in his room. Someone say "ahhhhh.... bliss". Usually, I would be napping with them especially since my day sorta started at 4.45am today. But since I've just finished some ibanking and computer is on, why not?
Me-time in my previous life, aka Before Children (B.C) were all about going shopping alone, going for a massage, mani/pedi session. Sometimes when I get really frustrated at work, I go and dine on my own for lunch, enjoying the peacefulness and not having to answer/speak/entertain anyone. Other times when a little perk-me-up would do the job, I get into a hair salon for a hair wash or get a quick shoulder massage.
But, these were all BC. Now, after the arrival of not 1, but 2 kids, the luxury of sitting on the porcelain throne in peace without having the session disrupted is a welcome Me-time. So, how do I keep my sanity?
1. Marketing - as aunty as it sounds, going to the market alone can be quite liberating. I don't have a toddler I have to run after or pestering me to carry. I can take my own sweet time at each stall and remember everything on my to-buy list. Sometimes I even get to buy coffee and sip it while I get the weekly groceries done. But, I've not gone to the market since Clara was born and I have a feeling I probably won't be able to do so soon.
2. Shower - forget bath. Shower is a great Me-time. This confinement, I broke all rules and showered twice a day which is my norm. I take longer showers in the morning because I wash my hair. Those minutes in the bathroom, in total privacy (not always the case) are well cherished. I never really used to scrub my body in the bath nor be very conscientious with applying lotion, facial regime etc. But I have since been religiously doing so... erm... just to extend my time in the bathroom. LOL. Ok la, and I think I really should be doing these maintenance work since I don't have the luxury of going to the spa or facial.
3. Breastfeeding Clara - Ok, I know I should be bonding with my girl when she nurses but she happily closes her eyes while drinking away, so I gotta find something to do to entertain myself right? I look down at her for too long the nape of my neck starts to hurt. So during nursing or pumping sessions, I catch up with what's happening on Dayre - commenting and replying, I check in on FB and Instagram but lately even this is a luxury. Most of the time when I nurse Clara, I'm playing with Bradley at the same time. And my favourite activity to do while doing the night feed is.... sleep.
So, come to think about it, mummy's me-time is as good as nothing. But I have learnt to lower my expectations, and quite frankly, both Bradley and Clara, and my husband are the loves of my life, I'm more than happy to spend my waking moments with them.
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|Pooja Kawatra blogs at Mums&Babies. A full time working mom who turned into a stay-at-home-mom, she enjoys spending time with her two little angels and growing everyday with them. She spends time cooking, baking and crafting with her kids at home.|
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